What would it be like if you didn't have to be perfect? How would your life be different if instead of constantly trying to control everything you could be vulnerable and feel whatever feelings washed over you? Scary right? Hard maybe? Liberating for sure!
I've spent a good portion of my life asking myself this question and helping others explore this question for themselves.
First of all we have to be willing to make mistakes and own them. I tell my clients that I make mistakes everyday. Oh, I just realized something… that may not instill the greatest confidence in me! Actually, more than that I hope it creates trust with those I work with and possibly the permission they need within themselves to be more authentic.
Second, we have to be willing to enter into life knowing that we may experience pain. If we can trust that we can live through sadness or disappointment or whatever difficult emotion we are trying to avoid then we can be totally present for joy or happiness or whatever delicious experience that we want more of.
Third… actually I can't think of a third thing right now. Maybe it will come to me later. I told you I'm not perfect!
Life is not a series of tasks to accomplish perfectly but opportunities to love more deeply, feel more completely and learn more passionately.
Oh yes, you know this is one I play with a lot. Perfection or the perceived lack there of, stems in large part from a lack of trust and a resistance to what is. Trying to be perfect is a perpetual state of striving. What would it be like to simply stop resisting. Huh! Probably the peace that passeth understanding. Oh wouldn't that be a welcome change!!!
ReplyDeleteYour honesty refreshes me. I really appreciate just TALKING. Saying how you feel. Truth telling sure seems a good way to move through things. That has been my experience. Like I said..... your honesty is more than a breath of fresh air. It invigorates me. Thank you!
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